Update with my Gram

So this is how much I am in the loop of my family... My Gram was already cream-mated, and they are not having a "funeral" for her..  They are going to have a family get together in FEBRUARY.... OMG This is so foreign to me..  I have lost my Grandmother (Moms Mom) Great Grandmother (Moms Grandmother)  Grandfather (Moms Dad) and my Mother, and both my Step Grandparents.. When all these family members passed, we had a funeral with in a week, and was open casket to say our final goodbyes..  

I was not even told that they were going to cream-mate my Gram.. I thought I would have that time to come down for the funeral, (even got the time approved through my Hubby's work) and spend some "grieving" time with my family..  I almost think that they didn't want me to come.. I kept hearing different stories..   So I am so upset, that I was not even in the "loop" as to what they decided..

I didn't even get a call saying hey Jenn, we decided to cream-mate her instead of having an open casket funeral, we just wanted to let you know..  Oh no, she is already cream-mated.. The decision was already made...  I am so upset.. Maybe I don't have the right to be, but I just feel like the odd man out..   Everyone else knew and had the time to process that.. Me, I found out by accident by calling my cousin to see what was going on, cause no one has called me..

So that is the latest.. I don't really know how to feel.  They knew I waited to come out specifically for the funeral that was supposed to happen, that we had been talking about.. Had I known that they were NOT going to have a funeral, I so would have gone to see her while she was still alive in the hospital to say my final goodbyes..   I did get to say my goodbyes thru the phone held up to her ear, but given the cir****tances I would have been there in person... 

Like I said, I just don't know how to feel..


Edited for them dang spelling errors.. LOL

Oh honey! ***hugs***

That just sucks, no other way to say that. I know how it can be to feel like the odd man out, I moved away from the rest of my family and they leave me out of things ALL THE TIME. I think its kinda of like "out of sight, out of mind".

I know there is nothing that can be said to make you feel better but know that I am here for you! I think you have all my info? Call me if I can do anything!

**hugs**


Shells

Thank You Shells,   I just can't express how much your support through all of this has ment..  Us odd girls out will stick together and get thru anything.. 

Remember I am here for you too hun... Let me know what I can do to help you with this moving crisis... 

Lots of love and hugs,
Jenn

I am so sorry, but I do know exactly what you are going through.  My father in law, was creamated, his ashes sat at his step kids house, my husbands step mother died, and there was to be a service for her and they were going to be buried together.  Not only did we not find out to later that my DH's step mom died, they buried his father and had a service and none of his 5 kids know where or when they buried him. 

Families can be so cruel.  Again I am so sorry for your loses and the pain you are having to endure

Hugs, Diane

Oh HELL NO! That is not right.....

I would say more than Hell No, but don't want to get my arsh kicked off of here.

How did the housing hunting go, anything?

Yes there are a few more words I would say too, but....

Yeah I have way stronger words for people who behave like that, but there are children present...or something.

We have the money thing pretty well figure out and we are going to go see a BUNCH of places tomorrow, so we are hopeful!!!

Thanks for checkin!

OMG that is horrible to not know where they burried him.. I am sorry to for your loss, and what you had to go through as well...  Yes, families can be so cruel, and truly what can you do, the damage has already been done..

I really appreciate the support that I have with my OH family.. I can't thank you enough for taking the time to respond, and for caring..

Big Hugs,
Jenn

I am sorry you are going through this.   Your Gran would not want you to be struggling with this.  Just go to the beach and talk to her.  Have your own service- look at pictures, remember and celebrate her life.  She is part of you and no one can take that away from you.  ((Hugs))